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Julia W's avatar

From my years working at a rape crisis center I can confirm two things: 1) The people who administer rape kits are some of the greatest and most compassionate humans on the planet. and 2) Undergoing a rape kit is still a grueling, miserable experience. Imagine you've just been through an unthinkable trauma. Now you're spending hours being photographed, your hair is being pulled out (from your head and other places). You're being poked, prodded and scraped and you're being forced to tell your story over and over again. You give up your clothing - all knowing this is just the beginning of a long road that probably won't lead to justice. The men and women who choose to go through this are absolute warriors and those who don't have every reason not to. I look forward to reading the book - it is much needed.

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Nicole's avatar

I’m a former hospital advocate and a sexual violence researcher. I want to offer up an important correction on this essay:

Rape kits can’t “prove” rape. They offer evidence that there was physical contact between two people, but most rape kits aren’t particularly useful evidence in a courtroom, especially if the perpetrator’s identity was already known and he claims all contact was “consensual.” A lot of the time, victims go through the trauma of a rape kit just to learn the physical evidence wouldn’t actually matter much in their case. (That being said, the trauma-informed interview conducted by the SANE is much more useful evidence.)

In my research work, I’ve come across survivors who felt really betrayed by their rape kits because they had been misled to believe they could “prove” rape. In one case, the survivor’s rape kit documented bruising and strangulation, but it was still used by her perpetrator’s legal team as proof that all acts were consensual “kinks.” It broke the survivor’s heart to hear her SANE admit that consensual BDSM and injurious rape would produce the same rape kit. It made her wonder why she had put herself through it at all. I think that’s really important to acknowledge here.

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