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Alison Christiana's avatar

anne, i’m an avid reader of your writing and seeing this newsletter land in my inbox this morning is moving and so appreciated. i’m a transracial korean adoptee and have been grappling with much of the painful outcomes of that since my 20s (i’m now nearly 40).

it’s deeply heartening to finally see and hear adoptee’s stories, particularly transracial ones, coming to the surface more often in all kinds of media. for so long, there was nothing echoing back to me my own experience except tropes of the evil/problematic/unworthy/comical adopted child told in stories and movies (which i think is directly tied to the deification of adoptive parents).

so many people don’t understand the vast nuances and complexities that exist with adoption, and that misunderstanding often starts in the home and radiates out into society only to be reflected back to/internalized by adoptees. thank you for making space for this topic and angela’s work. ♥️

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Savitha Moorthy's avatar

I’m South Asian/ Desi and my husband is biracial, identifying as Mexican-American/ Latino. We built our family through open adoption and our son is Black/ African-American. My husband is also adopted and this was a fact he learned in his 30s. As a family and as non-Black parents of a Black son, we are trying to learn our way forward, show up for our son in the ways he needs us to, and love one another in the most abundant way possible. It’s messy and complicated and I wouldn’t have it another way.

Many narratives of transracial adoption assume White families adopting children of color, and I believe that is more typical, but it doesn’t resonate for us. In this context, Angela’s voice is refreshing. I have to go back and read the interview again, more carefully. I just ordered the book as well.

AHP, thanks for all the work you do on this newsletter and for bringing the work of people like Angela into my world.

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