Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Thick Press's avatar

This is such a beautiful post. Slightly separate from the stuff about parenting...I really appreciate the the acknowledgement that care, community-building, and friendship are often unglamorous and difficult. Once you give into that reality, so much opens up. Or at least that's been my experience with parenting and community work.

Expand full comment
LJ's avatar

I (a child-free person) think I am good at the bigger "event"-type things (I host a NYE pajama party at my house every year, I'm very good at planning trips), but I am not as good at the mundane, less-fun parts of this. Sending this to my friends who live in the same city as me, and writing a commitment to be better at showing up during the not-sexy parts, was an act of vulnerability today. I already have anxiety about it - how will my weekends be compromised now? What if I can't always get a workout in when I want to? But I know that if I want to be a part of a strong community (and I do) then I'm going to have to get uncomfortable sometimes.

Expand full comment
53 more comments...

No posts