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Scott's avatar

I'm a full-time university instructor with about 430 students per semester, and a part-time illustration business. I've been taking real meal breaks when I'm on campus for about a year. It's mostly a good thing, but it's also very different from the group meals you describe.

On campus, my meal breaks (usually dinner, rather than lunch) are aggressively private. There's always a closed door between me and everyone else, and some sort of relaxing entertainment (like an audiobook, a podcast or a feed full of cat rescue videos) on the table next to me. Grading, emailing and class prep are NOT allowed. Most of the time, it's exactly what I need between my afternoon studios and my evening lectures.

Eating with coworkers exhausts me. This is partly because I am a fat person who gets a lot of scrutiny when I eat. I'm also a diabetic who makes all of my own meals, so I'm the odd one out when we go to a restaurant (if they'll let me eat my own food at all) or order take-out.

Because I have so many students, there's a very good chance that I will bump into at least one person who needs help with a class. I don't like turning people away when they ask for help, especially in large classes, where students are already reluctant to talk with their instructors. If I help them, my dinner break turns into a working dinner. We already know how unhealthy that is.

And of course there are coworkers with poor boundaries. As an Instructor, I am near the bottom of the faculty hierarchy. For folks at other schools, I think I'm in "Lecturer" territory. There are weird power dynamics in play whenever I tell someone "I'm taking a dinner break. Let's talk about this later." I'd rather skip that whenever I can.

Anyway, I love my real dinner breaks. But I see them as chances to rest, rather than opportunities for solidarity.

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Skippy's avatar

I’ve been very fortunate to work at organizations — all nonprofits, surprisingly enough — that had a strong tradition of taking lunch away from your desk. At one place, we would all gather at 1 pm and lunch together as a staff; at another, everyone would head out into the city around noon every day either to eat or take a walk or run errands — sometimes alone, sometimes in small groups. It made for a much more pleasant and productive work environment.

In contrast, at my current workplace, everyone eats at their desks — despite the fact that we have a full eat-in kitchen on our floor. When I first started I would sit in the kitchen to eat my sandwich, but every single person who walked by made some sort of snide comment that “it must be nice” to have the time to step away from my desk every day. As I really hate eating at my desk I ended up finding a place outside where I could take my lunch away from the prying eyes of the peanut gallery. It’s sad.

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