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Annie Bergeron's avatar

My son was the innocent victim of a random horrific act of gun violence in January 2022. The cycle of outrage and complacency is a special form of torture for Homicide Survivor families. To all unaffected, it’s just another shooting, quickly forgotten; to us, it perpetuates anguish and trauma. Families of gun violence victims are re traumatized daily, making life very painful. Parents are already struggling to get over an out-of-order violent traumatic death - the murder of an innocent child - which is probably one of the most difficult things anyone can ever get through, only to feel like nobody cares. Harrowing doesn’t begin to encompass the depth of despair.

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I know this is nihilistic--I feel the same way. I'm going to continue voting, and I'm going to continue with a lot of the efforts I've started and sustained (donating money, protesting when I can), but there are so many things that feel like this to me: Roe v Wade and reproductive rights is another--and so often I feel like all my efforts are just wasted, that they are small, that I am so torn in so many directions.

A thing that has helped me a lot in the past two months, as the news has gotten progressively harder to bear and to know how to do anything about, is shifting my thinking and my goals from changing these terrible things, to focusing on how to hold on to my humanity and how to protect others' humanity, even as our country is dying (and the world). I know this is grim, but it's helped me a lot to shift my focus that way. Whatever coming is bad. I can't stop that. I don't know how we can anymore.

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