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Antonia Malchik's avatar

"5.) Previous attempts at reaching out for help have been rebuffed or ignored, and it hurt so much that you never want to ask again. This one’s really hard. It’s also related to the feeling, as one commenter put it, 'that there’s no help to be had.'"

The "hurt" part is real, but it's also that when this has happened enough times, asking for help just becomes one more thing on the to-do list.

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Micheline Maynard's avatar

I think a form like this could be incredibly important for caregivers. I was responsible for my mother and then my aunt’s care before they died. While I tried a few times to appeal to family and friends for help, I felt like I wasn’t asking in a way that people responded. If I could have circulated a straightforward list, at least they would have known what I needed and what would have brought some joy to my elders.

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