Bought the book on kindle the second I read the title. My children are now 18, 16, 14, and 12. I am still recovering from when they were all little. I have been in a constant state of recovering their entire lives. I feel like I will never fully recover. And right now, I feel like I have spent so much time in overwhelm and taking care of…
Bought the book on kindle the second I read the title. My children are now 18, 16, 14, and 12. I am still recovering from when they were all little. I have been in a constant state of recovering their entire lives. I feel like I will never fully recover. And right now, I feel like I have spent so much time in overwhelm and taking care of basic needs that I failed to teach them independence, and how to live in the world as an adult. I also have an adopted daughter that is now 26, and a step child that is 27, so I had 5 children full time at home and 6 during holidays and summers. There was never any relief or recovery or replenishing during that time because we lived very isolated. I didn’t have friends or babysitters. Their father did nothing but add an extra person to care for and his needs always came first. Sex was a huge issue because I was constantly touched out and never wanted it. He demanded it as his right. I’m still very floored by the fact that he did maybe 1% (and that’s a generous 1%) of any care for the children, but demanded and got 50% custody in our divorce (I had him removed with a protective order in January of 2018, but divorce was final in 2021). It’s bittersweet because not having the children every other week has given me the opportunity to finally make friends and do things for myself. I struggle with this because I know the time they spend with him probably undoes everything positive that I do...
Bought the book on kindle the second I read the title. My children are now 18, 16, 14, and 12. I am still recovering from when they were all little. I have been in a constant state of recovering their entire lives. I feel like I will never fully recover. And right now, I feel like I have spent so much time in overwhelm and taking care of basic needs that I failed to teach them independence, and how to live in the world as an adult. I also have an adopted daughter that is now 26, and a step child that is 27, so I had 5 children full time at home and 6 during holidays and summers. There was never any relief or recovery or replenishing during that time because we lived very isolated. I didn’t have friends or babysitters. Their father did nothing but add an extra person to care for and his needs always came first. Sex was a huge issue because I was constantly touched out and never wanted it. He demanded it as his right. I’m still very floored by the fact that he did maybe 1% (and that’s a generous 1%) of any care for the children, but demanded and got 50% custody in our divorce (I had him removed with a protective order in January of 2018, but divorce was final in 2021). It’s bittersweet because not having the children every other week has given me the opportunity to finally make friends and do things for myself. I struggle with this because I know the time they spend with him probably undoes everything positive that I do...
I can’t wait to dig into this book!!!