Yes! I didn’t understand how the other girls had these curtains of glossy straight hair that ended in a straight line across their backs. (I now understand that this was heat styling, products, and regular haircuts). I just assumed they were better at ‘girling’ than me.
Yes! I didn’t understand how the other girls had these curtains of glossy straight hair that ended in a straight line across their backs. (I now understand that this was heat styling, products, and regular haircuts). I just assumed they were better at ‘girling’ than me.
Omg yes, the immediate assumption that I wasn't "good at being a girl" and wasn't doing it "right" instead of being able to understand that others were buying products and spending lots of time on it!
oh my god, yeah! I was so frustrated with my hair but I didn't understand that getting regular haircuts was what could make it look better. I also assumed I was naturally worse and different somehow. I didn't get my hair cut at all until 8th grade when a friend took me to the mall to try and "make me pretty" lol
as a zillenial who was bi and very online, I was exposed to queer culture and this feeling was narrativized as gender dysphoria, although I identify as female again now. I am curious how it felt to have a similar experience without that narrative, since even though I felt isolated I did have a way to understand myself and a sense that I wasn't alone (starting around middle school when I discovered the concept)
Yes! I didn’t understand how the other girls had these curtains of glossy straight hair that ended in a straight line across their backs. (I now understand that this was heat styling, products, and regular haircuts). I just assumed they were better at ‘girling’ than me.
Omg yes, the immediate assumption that I wasn't "good at being a girl" and wasn't doing it "right" instead of being able to understand that others were buying products and spending lots of time on it!
oh my god, yeah! I was so frustrated with my hair but I didn't understand that getting regular haircuts was what could make it look better. I also assumed I was naturally worse and different somehow. I didn't get my hair cut at all until 8th grade when a friend took me to the mall to try and "make me pretty" lol
as a zillenial who was bi and very online, I was exposed to queer culture and this feeling was narrativized as gender dysphoria, although I identify as female again now. I am curious how it felt to have a similar experience without that narrative, since even though I felt isolated I did have a way to understand myself and a sense that I wasn't alone (starting around middle school when I discovered the concept)