This is refreshing to read. My children exist a different societal arena (class etc) for the most part, and yet, everyday the micro and macro adjustment of what’s mine and what is there’s (to experience in this world.. soft. hard parenting) is an internal dialogue. So often I find myself calculating these themes against what was true for…
This is refreshing to read. My children exist a different societal arena (class etc) for the most part, and yet, everyday the micro and macro adjustment of what’s mine and what is there’s (to experience in this world.. soft. hard parenting) is an internal dialogue. So often I find myself calculating these themes against what was true for me and where society may place them. Do they get to idk… not care about college after high school because they look Black (they are, but their dad is white— and again, here, a larger dialogue on passivity and proximity to whiteness). I find that I’m often teaching them to rely on their community (not just themselves). But also trying to instill that they me be asked to ONLY rely on themselves?
Someone above wrote armor and maybe that’s what most of it is? Often a failed balance (but an attempt nonetheless).
This is refreshing to read. My children exist a different societal arena (class etc) for the most part, and yet, everyday the micro and macro adjustment of what’s mine and what is there’s (to experience in this world.. soft. hard parenting) is an internal dialogue. So often I find myself calculating these themes against what was true for me and where society may place them. Do they get to idk… not care about college after high school because they look Black (they are, but their dad is white— and again, here, a larger dialogue on passivity and proximity to whiteness). I find that I’m often teaching them to rely on their community (not just themselves). But also trying to instill that they me be asked to ONLY rely on themselves?
Someone above wrote armor and maybe that’s what most of it is? Often a failed balance (but an attempt nonetheless).