Wow! I found so much comfort in the words "these years really are meant to be more meandering than about perpetual, unreflective upward growth." It makes me feel better for not having achieved "enough" by this point (I'm 35.5).
I read this and think "of course I started grad school when I was 25 and then graduated at 30!" Now I also feel…
Wow! I found so much comfort in the words "these years really are meant to be more meandering than about perpetual, unreflective upward growth." It makes me feel better for not having achieved "enough" by this point (I'm 35.5).
I read this and think "of course I started grad school when I was 25 and then graduated at 30!" Now I also feel like I have a better answer when people do the math (which happened again yesterday) and realize that my husband and I got married when I was 26 and I gave birth to our daughter at 32 and ask about the gap. I didn't want to immediately climb the life escalator - I wanted to meander as I took time to learn and start my career, focus on my partner, and deal with our health issues. In my daughter's young years I've been focused on survival and not on career productivity and promotions.
But even if we take a step back, if I had done none of those things and just focused on pursuing meaning, that would have been enough in my quarterlife. It's nice to think that even when I thought I was failing these past 10 years that instead I was still being an overachiever!
Wow! I found so much comfort in the words "these years really are meant to be more meandering than about perpetual, unreflective upward growth." It makes me feel better for not having achieved "enough" by this point (I'm 35.5).
I read this and think "of course I started grad school when I was 25 and then graduated at 30!" Now I also feel like I have a better answer when people do the math (which happened again yesterday) and realize that my husband and I got married when I was 26 and I gave birth to our daughter at 32 and ask about the gap. I didn't want to immediately climb the life escalator - I wanted to meander as I took time to learn and start my career, focus on my partner, and deal with our health issues. In my daughter's young years I've been focused on survival and not on career productivity and promotions.
But even if we take a step back, if I had done none of those things and just focused on pursuing meaning, that would have been enough in my quarterlife. It's nice to think that even when I thought I was failing these past 10 years that instead I was still being an overachiever!